What stops me from going full-out right now is the potential I see in other family members. I feel like I've made significant progress with two of them and want them to be in full fade mode before I go DA.
Interestingly, fading without any visible source of disgruntlement is proving to be VERY difficult. I have another family member who was "stumbled" into their dropping meetings and service and others seem to understand that and give very little hassle. I, on the other hand, have been dodging calls trying to arrange shepherding for the last couple weeks. I guess once they know what's wrong, they leave you alone? But if they're puzzled about your behavior they interrogate until they find out? I don't know.
I do feel it would be (will be) a lot easier once I just drop the bomb and am fully out...but not yet.